A Knight in Shining Armor
My husband and I celebrated our twenty-ninth wedding anniversary last month. We are still in love. My eldest daughter looks at us as if we couldn't possibly be for real. It's a whole new world she's living in, and it's no fairy tale -- at least not the happily-ever-after kind. I'm no prude (well maybe a little), but the things that are going on these days make me sick, sad, and confused. How did such basic, primal behavior go so drastically wrong?
It's really not meant to be this complicated. It's fundamental. It's the freaking birds and the bees for God's sake. Guy meets girl. The two feel a chemistry. Guy pursues girl. Girl knows she's got the goods, and she knows how to dangle the carrot to keep him interested. Guy chases the carrot like the hungry little rabbit that he is -- using every resource he has to win his prize. Girl waits for him to prove his intentions. Everyone wins in the end.
Here's a quick version of what today's rabbit chase looks like. Girl is desperate for a guy. Girl will do anything to get a guy. Guy knows that and does absolutely nothing to pursue girl. Well, if the girl is lucky she'll get a lame text message. If a miracle happens they might go on some semblance of a date. The girl will pay or they will split the bill. They have sex. Guy doesn't text anymore. Girl doesn't understand why. Round two.... three... four... five... six... on and on it goes. Nobody wins. Nobody knows why. Oh, and that's the simple version of the rabbit chase. It gets worse. The more complex (though no less common) version involves multiple partners, genders, and every kind of mind-altering aid to add to the confusion. God help us.
Maybe the calamity has something to do with the modern pace of life -- immediate gratification. Maybe it has to do with television, computers, and every other technology. I'm not here to speculate on the cause, just to attest to the Truth. That I can speak for. It involves listening to that voice within that tells you right from wrong -- good from evil. It concerns such antiquated things as faith, tradition, and love. It has something to do with purity, integrity, honesty, and commitment.
I'm not making this stuff up. The Church has it all spelled out for us as the Seven Heavenly Virtues: Chastity, Temperance, Charity, Diligence, Patience, Kindness, and Humility. Their corresponding vices are: Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Sloth, Wrath, Envy, and Pride. It's all right there -- the solutions and problems. None of it is simple though -- it never was. It's a spiritual war, and it's in full swing.
St. Paul showed us the way to be victorious in this war. He said: "Therefore, put on every piece of God's armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm." I know chastity belts are obsolete, but I also know that God's armor is still very much alive. Good fairy tales usually involve a knight in shining armor. So if you want the fairy tale -- suit up.
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